Jul
18
Words of Wisdom
Filed Under (coping strategies, parenting tips, Uncategorized)

A kind word can change a life. Even when it seems as if children aren’t listening, they do value your expertise and rely on your support.
One of the many priveleges I enjoy as a mother and an educator is the opportunity to impart wisdom to young people.  I’ve had a new opportunity to do that this month as my oldest daughter leaves for her first overnight camp.   Following is the letter I wrote to her:

My dearest daughter,

You are facing a new challenge.  It’s not your first challenge, but it is a big one.  You may get discouraged and even cry.  You may feel lonely or frustrated.  You may think you’re lost.  Remind yourself to look up.  See potential and hope in the unknown.   Command yourself to rise up and acknowledge your greatness.  And above all – love.  Love yourself, your life, your fears, your dreams – all of it.  And it will love you back.

As you venture off into the world without me, I’d like to send you with some wisdom that may help you negotiate your path with grace.

Life Tips from Mom:

1. Ask, “How Can I Help?”  Help as often as you can along the way.  Especially when you’re feeling down, make a point to help someone else who needs it.  It will perk you up. 

2. Respect diversity.  We all have different likes, dislikes, needs, habits, humor.  Respect it all.  Tolerate it.  No excuses to raise or lower yourself above or below anyone else.

3.  Share yourself with the world.  The world will respond to you in equal measure.  If you hold back your greatness, you will meet with resistance.  If you share your full beauty, beauty will be reflected back to you in your experiences.

4.  Be free.  Remember where you came from, but only to the extent that it helps you get where you want to go.  Don’t let your history hold you back.

5.  Choose happiness.  Don’t waste time mourning what you left behind.  Embrace what’s in front of you.  It’s always your choice.

I’m going to miss you like crazy!  But it will be good to miss each other.  Good exercise for the heart.  We humans have a huge range of emotions to play with.  If we only experienced the feel-good ones, we’d miss out on our full human experience.  It’s okay to be sad or lonely.  Tears cleanse the heart like a nice bath.  Whatever I feel, I promise to allow myself to feel fully.  I hope you will too. 

We will be together again soon.  Our relationship will be richer because of the separation.  We’ll have stories to share, hugs to catch up on, and a new appreciation for each other.   You are with me in my thoughts and in my heart.  I love you.

Mom

Questions and Actions:

  • What advice do you have for a young person?  What is the most important thing you think your child should know about life?
  • What do you miss most about your child when she’s gone?
  • Write a love letter to your child.  Tell her what she means to you.
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