Jan
31
A Sensitive Boy
Filed Under (bullying, feelings, Something To Think About, Uncategorized)

Part I:  A Vicious Cycle Once upon a time there was a sensitive boy.  He cried at the drop of a hat.  This annoyed the boy’s father who tried to toughen him up.  “Don’t be a sissy!” Dad said, which made the boy want to cry even more. But he knew it wasn’t safe. Instead, [...]

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Oct
27
Girl In Hiding
Filed Under (feelings)

If I showed you who I want to be – showed you the stuff that makes my heart sing – you might laugh, and I would be regretful for exposing myself.  So I choose not to show you.  I keep my dreams, beautiful dreams, in a cocoon where they are safe.    I would rather hide [...]

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Aug
17
Chasing Beautiful
Filed Under (feelings, self-esteem, Something To Think About)

“Who does the mirror say I am?  Could I be like someone who matters even for a moment?  Chasing beautiful.” These words stopped me dead in my tracks when I first heard them sung by Heather Vassar.  In her song titled Chasing Beautiful Heather captures the desperation of a girl searching for her own beauty.  [...]

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Jun
27
May You Be Heard
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My daughter’s bedroom has a secret door in the closet.  It’s the type of door one hesitates to open for the first time for fear of any number of unrealistic scary-movie scenarios.  I’ve managed to avoid entering this unusable, unfinished space in the five years I’ve lived in the house.  But after a week of heavy rain [...]

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Jun
03
What Kids Need When They’re Angry
Filed Under (feelings, parenting tips)

My then-two year old daughter staged a tantrum of mammoth proportions.  She growled and screamed and kicked.  Her words were angry and loud.  I felt her frustration and wondered why mine wasn’t rising to meet hers. A question popped into my head, “What do I need most when I’m out of control?”  The answer: Love.  [...]

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