Apr
04

Self-sufficiency is directly related to self-esteem.  The more a child can do for himself, the more capable he feels.   A child who feels capable has a sense of control over his life.  He feels competent because he recognizes his strengths. This, in turn, adds to his sense of self-worth. When we honor a tween’s ability to [...]

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Aug
30
Start Lists, Stop Nagging
Filed Under (parenting tips, self-esteem)

“I don’t want to be a nagging mother.  I want everyone to do their part without me asking repeatedly.”  I moaned. Teen daughter responded matter-of-factly with an irrefutable truth, “It’s just not going to happen, Mom. So accept it.” She’s right, of course.  A family in which the children operate as self-sufficient, self-motivated, responsible team members without [...]

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Feb
04
Woman Attacks 5 Year Old On School Bus
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When I heard this headline I was shocked, but not really.  The story is a familiar one.  Child bullied.  Parent angry.  Blame.  Retribution sought.  Tempers flared.  Inflamed reactions.  It happens in schools, hockey rinks, playgrounds – anywhere children interact. We might agree that the parent who exerts her force against another child on behalf of [...]

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Jan
16

I’m not a fan of the New Year’s Resolution ritual.  I find it unsavory practice to form intentions on cue as if it were as unquestionable a necessity as drinking water.  I admit I have an exaggerated distaste for a potentially positive practice.  But my experience with resolutions repeatedly demonstrates a set-up for failure.  Thus, I [...]

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Oct
03
A Little Trust Goes A Long Way
Filed Under (parenting tips, self-esteem)

I remember the day I felt grown up for the first time.  I was 8 years old, spending the summer at a beach house.  Older friends had decided to walk to the local ice cream store – one that I had never been to without my parents.  I knew I wouldn’t be able to join [...]

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