Apr
04

Self-sufficiency is directly related to self-esteem.  The more a child can do for himself, the more capable he feels.   A child who feels capable has a sense of control over his life.  He feels competent because he recognizes his strengths. This, in turn, adds to his sense of self-worth. When we honor a tween’s ability to [...]

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Jan
31
A Sensitive Boy
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Part I:  A Vicious Cycle Once upon a time there was a sensitive boy.  He cried at the drop of a hat.  This annoyed the boy’s father who tried to toughen him up.  “Don’t be a sissy!” Dad said, which made the boy want to cry even more. But he knew it wasn’t safe. Instead, [...]

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Jan
09
Expectations Spelled Out
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Long ago, when my three children were small, I felt the need to get the rules straight.  During a particularly trying day, it became obvious that a clear set of guidelines was necessary.  Following the assumption that a child cannot be expected to face consequences if she doesn’t know what’s expected of her, the Family [...]

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Apr
17
The Bystander
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I suppose I could have assumed that I hadn’t heard the whole story when my tween told me that a friend had been bullied at school and that my daughter had defended her.  But, to be honest, the topic of bullying has become so common these days that I’ve become a little desensitized to it.  Today’s [...]

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Mar
22
The Mind Plays Dirty, The Laundry Is Clean
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I’m in the business of thinking.  Positive thinking.  Both personally and professionally, I study, teach, and utilize the power of thoughts and words.  Yet still, my mind takes off like a dog in heat at the first scent of temptation. At 19:00 hours, husband, anticipating the need to have sheets on the bed (he’s so [...]

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